'If I don't do it, who will?'

The 'over-functioner's theme song', and how to stop singing it

Recently, I was listening to a clergy colleague as she unloaded her stress. She was trying to get her congregation to be more engaged - with the community, with their own spiritual lives, with the life of faith.

“They are lovely people,” she said, “and eager to learn. But only if I plan every meeting and find every resource. I am constantly coming up wit…